"Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habits. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny." -- unknown

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results - Albert Einstein

minor rant
August 02, 2002 - 5:03 pm

there's all sorts of different stories. some are "we had a fight" or "i told him i just can't date anyone right now, but i really want to be friends" or "he asked me out, i told him i couldn't go and now i can" or whatever the situation.

what confounds me woman are often quick to point out that they are more mature than men. the like to point out they are more in touch with their feelings and better communicators. all of this is in general of course. so what's the problem? you want to talk to a guy, go talk to him. why on earth are you emailing total strangers? you know who you want to talk to! so go do it.

women also like to say he handled that realtionship so bad. he started to act like an ass when she turned him down. is it a pressure thing to ask someone out and risk getting rejected? you bet it is. do some guys, myself included, handle rejection poorly? you bet we do.

at least we ask, or try to ask. it the short run it sucks. who likes rejection? if women are more mature, then they should be able to handle the anixity of asking the possible rejection better. in the long run it's a heck of a lot better. it's gotta be better than sitting around "hoping" someone will come talk to me. it's got to be better talking about how silly someone is cause they won't ask someone out even though everyone knows that they want to.

i dunno, it just annoys me when people identify what they want and then the quibble about getting it. not just in dating, but in anything. to be honest, it's quickly becoming a huge pet peeve of mine.

i wish i could just get to the point of finding what i want. i wish i'd wake up and say "i want this job" or "i could see myself married to so-and-so" or "i met this girl and i really liked her." oh hell ya, i'd ask her out. for sure i'd be all nervous and worried about it, but the hard part is finding what you want. the easy part is going to get it.

if it meant a chance at me being happy, i'd move. i can find a job anywhere. i might not like the first job i find, but i'd find one. i'd look for another while working the shitty job. i wouldn't much care cause in a much bigger and far, far more important way..i'd be happy.

mini-rant over. i think i actaully stayed almost on point.

speaking of sitting around, i'm excited. i've fanagled a little get together tonight. cheap beer, noisy bar and mebbe a chica are in my future tonight.