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Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results - Albert Einstein

just another friday
August 23, 2002 - 5:30 pm

I've been dating the same guy for about 5 weeks now. However, I only see him about once a week, or about once every 9 to 11 days. What gives? I figure, if he really liked me, he'd make an effort to see me more often, right? He's really busy, he's on a bunch of different sports teams and works a lot, but I just expect a little more effort, I guess. What do you think?

this isn't exactly what i replied. i was a lot nicer then.

what do i think? first of there's the whole effort thing. who put the effort in to get the relationship started? who set up the dates? i'd be he did, that's just the standard way things go and i freely admit i'm assuming facts not known. if there wasn't any effort in asking someone out and setting up dates...why do we see so many sitautions where person x is scared to ask out person y?

second, she says shes been dating him for 5 weeks, or 35 days. they see each other every 9 to 11 days. i'm going to use 10 as an average. that's 3.5 dates or 4 dates. so after 4 dates she wants him to show her effort by dropping or shuffling his other longer standing activities? she says he's really busy, works out alot, plays sports teams...so do women really think he needs to step it up and show some real effort here?

i basically told her why doesn't she show the effort and ask him for some more of his time. why is it up to him? he's busy. he may think every ten days is all she wants. if she wants more, it's up to her to tell him, no?

blah.

i think i need to quit that site.

i actaully bought some st johns wart. an effort to get me happier.

plans for the weekend include very possibly going to a band tonight. the one from work is playing near here. i think i might go. at least i'll know people there.